If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. It does not store any personal data. I am a white English revert sister, who was raised Catholic my whole life before coming to Islam, so I know I am fighting my ingrained culture when I feel instinctively against it. Thats what life is. The purpose behind marriage was to provide shelter and financial support to widows and victims. subhanallah! He will not got to hell for taking another wife. The difference is of course in the idea that what we do is more for the sake of Allah Taaalaa than for ourselves. Wat she really wanta is ur love, patience, to feel safe and secure in her marriage. I imagine there is an article for things a muslim wife wont tell you, but you really put men high up on a pedal-stool, in the Islamic perspective women really are required to wholeheartedly obey and accept all the lust of their husbands. 2.If this person really loves How can he trust you if you The Prophet did warn men not to hurt their wives and then expect sex an hour later. For those who are saying that men have no obligation to inform first wife of seond marriage. Also, the second wife is family too. if you study Islam truthfully you will know u need to ask first. If you cant except that get ready to be disappointed. In general, being single and dreaming you are married is a good sign, but . Next time he gets ready for work button his shirt or tie his tie and tell him how handsome he looks. No one likes to be preached to.But if you do this right, youll be getting a double reward: The reward that comes with living with a righteous husband. he will not be able to stay with out her. Kindly tell me what should I do and with what reference I can convince my parents. take time to let him know he exists in your your own busy self assertive, high achieving life of yours; dear muslim sister. While it is completely understandable that you are shocked and hurt, provided the situation, you may still have the chance to improve your family life with him in South Africa and keep it separate from his parents and wife in Egypt. All he used to do was he was busy in his own world. A man in Islam should only marry no more and no less than 4 wives only. However, if you are afraid that you can not be fair (between wives if you have more than one wife) marry one wife or provide with the slave girl you have (Verse 4 : 3), 7. And for most of us, we are doing the best we can. I had no need to go out and work or equip myself with a skill. Ive been married 14 years and stayed firmly by my husbands side despite the fact hes never worked a days hard work to keep a roof over my head or put food on the table. WOW where did you evolve that doctrine -_- I mean that holds true for slaves but for multiple marriages, nowhat if someone has more than average desirewould you rather see him satisfy it via haram means and let him go to hell or to have his company in heaven.plus a second wife can be taken without the permission of the first but it is strongly advised that permission be sought but it is not wajib [unless it was agreed upon at the time of Nikkah] saying so reminds of mullahs in sub continent, Tunis and Turkey [who actually have the nerve of deeming it illegal in its entirety] and a few other sexually liberated yet religiously repressed Muslim countrieswhat is Halal is halalif you dont like that or as you said This is one part of Islam I can never except then please say touba as you are contradicting the Hudood Allah by picking and choosingyou cannot bring jidat [innovation] to the deen nor can you pick and choose what you like or dont like. Muslim family and the divorce of two spouses who love one another, and the unbearable hell. As for the positive result that you say your friend got, Russia has nine million more females than males. 33:36 Sister when you said i will never accept this part of islam you could have come out the fold of islam!! Actually, that is false. The quran says that a man must treat his wives equally, you can easily argue that if the original wife doesnt want her husband to marry again then that is him being unfair to his first wife as compared to the potential second wife. I firmly believe in equality, but realize men and women have different roles in the family. I will practice , When I get Maried.. Insha Allah , oh god, it was scary reading this and realizing theres an entire culture of people that think this way and live this way. A man is the leader of the house. I liked him and I liked everything about him. Maybe he should bathe regularly, groom himself well, put on clean bed clothes, not treat her with contempt and be a thoughtful sex partner. Being a woman and knowing tons of other women I know when respect is given and there is lots of communication, the man will get whatever he wants, trust me on that. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. They should also be told to be content with one wife and pray more and ask Allah for peace of mind and heart. However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. Now move from in front of the television and go make me a sandwich. Showing us no tenderness or thoughtfulness, making us second best to your mum, your family, your mates. He is not interested in physical affection anymore. He Desires Your Loyalty I feel that he is not having any love for me. Seriously? stabbing him in the back by tearing apart his family, so that his home and The USA as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. So permission from his first wife would be SHIRK.Proof Please. Dont make things harms..where does it say men should ask their wives permission to many another???????? Our teachings go back a very long time, what Allah has given the Prophet (PBUH) to teach us is final, to question it is not right.equality is important, and we are taught that. Yea he loves me but sometimes i have an issue with trust. Lets face the reality, sisters, men are not perfect and they love sex so much than us. I so agree with you I was shocked to see how lightly da matter was put up like its no big deall. I cant be selfish on this when it comes to second marriage & indeed Ill try to fix issues instead of going for second thought. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. You said a man is not allowed to marry a 2nd without the first PERMISSION. If a man takes a second wife against the wishes of his first wife, a sister has the right to divorce him. Thwart the plans of the shaytaan by not letting this young Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allaah @Kay: can u provide some Daleel (proof) for your statements.I would love to examine them. And most men take advantage of that they have the women work, and then come home to cook and take care of the kids. The way I see it is, treat your wife how you expect to be treated back, treat your husband the way you expect him to treat you, men and women are equal, Im tired of these sick men that think they deserve everything when they dont give anything, has this guy ever thought about womens needs and wants?? Here is an explanation of the Quranic verse below. If you feel something wrong then do some research on that topic and InshaALLAH you will obviously get your answer. JUST KIDDING! After an argument or disagreement over certain issue women may be adamant and come up with excuses not to have sex whereas men are usually easy to ignore what has happened and can easily get involved. Re: My Husband Married Another Woman Secretly and Expects Me to Accept it. He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. Then he came to him a second time, and he forbade it. Like, she still performs her duties and obeys/respects her husband, but it hurts her so much she even cries during intercourse with her husband as he did the same with another woman. Allahhu Akbar!!!!! Prophet Muhammad also often experienced it, below is the prayer of the Prophet Muhammad SAW to Allah taala. I cant love him and give him what he wants. He is aware of why she is unhappy and of what she wants, but he just states that its halal and she should accept it. His duty is to protect and provide for the family, even if the wife is stronger and wealthier. It should not be a form of abuse. that he got a positive result?! whispers is to ask yourself the following questions and answer them 4.What guarantee do you have that We need to understand the depth of the issue. My husband thinks that as he left this lady, then his condition becomes worse. Im sorry to say but the person that wrote this article is a complete idiot and appears to be very arrogant. How could ones condition change so drastically? Not all Muslim are same, you are talking about a handful. U just mention everything from men side but ll these important for a woman as well. I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. What, he gave her Mahr money, so now he owns her and shes his sex slave? Sex when he wants even if the woman doesnt?? I will always read this article when ever i feel down or start to loose hope in my marriage. Dn I am pregnant after my second daughter he kept her in rented house dt women already married n she have 5 year boy baby with first husband she kept relationship with my hubby n after along 5 years she get divorced with 1st husband now she staying with my hubby n she got 1 baby by my hubby. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Performance". Other uncategorized cookies are those that are being analyzed and have not been classified into a category as yet. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: @Mr. It is well known that women are by nature jealous and reluctant to share their husband with other women. The writer is just being realistic! what I have noticed from the hadith When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. Where are the unending advices to men about the dangers of treating their wives like property, second class citizens or servants? yeah we had a fight recently in which he was about to run his car over me.my knee was slightly swollen n pain.i cried a lot that day.its really painful cause we had loved marriage.thought would be happy.but know. Quran (33:36) It is not fitting for a Believer, man or woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His Messenger to have any option about their decision.. Has there been negative history? Others are willing to be open to it if the right conditions and harmony is fulfilled with their husband. d ring. I had to be treated by my doctor for depression. My husband and I have been married for a long time. There was an immediate connection between us. If he is mistreating you, you have the right to leave him. where it is not clear if the matter is good or bad, and the Muslim does not You should realize that you have Please get some counseling for your situation. I cant tell you that the same might apply to the husband if he refuses, but its his duty in Islam to satisfy his wife in intercourse and he cant just go to sleep without fulfilling that. Threaten her with divorce. (this is all the Islamic opinion and Im simpy stating it from all schools of thought in Islam). If a man refuses to consider his wifes sexual pleasure, along with being a jerk, he will have to answer to Allah for his neglect The consistent and constant advices to women to be patient when husbands are complete failures is ridiculous and getting really tired in 2016. Shaina i advice u 2 believe totally in Allahs word otherwise u will be among unbeliever, Allah as d creator know what is good us, Man are allow 2 marry more than one wife and we all see how female are very very Plenty than male i pray u will not be among 39 or 40s years ladie who av not sure of a particular man. (i.e., Ramadaan) and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be Its your right to add into your nikkah this is not acceptable to you that he takes a second wife without you first knowing and also put in your nikkah that at that time its your right to have a divorce at this time. 5 Types of Marriage in Islam that Muslims 5 Ways on How to Make Marriage Stronger Can You Remarry Your Ex-Husband In Islam? Just because woman is ALLOWED to divorce her husband, doesnt mean she should. And if you read all the way through surat al-nisa youll come to the part where God basically says You will not be able to treat them(women) equally. Husbands are supposed to be the head of a family, being head of the family doesnt just mean passing commandments. There is a reason why the majority of inhabitants in Jahhanam are women. and the wife wishes for a man with whom she can live in peace. And I totally I agree with muslimah. This is the Islamic view though. 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